21 May 2012

Rule #2: The Problem With Your Life is You.

Yep, you heard that right.

The problem with your life is you.

It's not the rich man's fault you made bad decisions and paid $67,000 for a college degree in Aramaic Studies.
It's not the government's fault you can't find a job (although they want you to believe they can fix your life).
It's not the pro athlete's fault he makes $3 million a year and you're making minimum wage.
It's not your girlfriend's fault you stuck with her despite her continual cheating. 

It's your fault.

It's your fault you thought Aramaic Studies was something worth going into debt for.
It's your fault you aren't out offering to mow lawns and babysit and clean houses.
It's your fault you decided to stick with a job making minimum wage instead of bettering yourself and asking for a raise, or moving on to a higher-paying job.
It's your fault you fell for her rationalizations and excuses.

This is a big rule, because it means that YOU are responsible for YOUR LIFE.  Scary thought, I know.  And you'll find a majority of people don't believe this particular rule. Doesn't matter, it still holds true.

Rule 1 and Rule 2 are closely linked, but while Rule 1 focuses on the external, Rule 2 emphasizes the importance of personal action to better yourself.  Waiting for someone else to fix your life is a long wait.  There are people who have been waiting generations for someone else to fix their lives, and if their children's children don't come to learn this rule, those children will still be waiting when the sun goes nova.  Most politicians want you to believe that everything wrong with your life is someone else's fault, and they'll help you make it right.  Just vote them into power, and they'll take care of all the heavy lifting.  Marketers want you to believe that you can purchase that "thing" that's missing from your life to make it right. Just buy their newest gadget, and you too can have that rock-star lifestyle. 

Here's the truth: If you want your life changed, it is up to you to make it happen.   You have control of your life, so you are the one who gets to do all the hard work to make your life better. 

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